Confidence is something every one of us strives for, and with good reason. Confident people inspire and motivate others. They are naturally admired by friends, family, peers and bosses, and their fearless disposition makes them attractive people to be around.
However lack of confidence in both men and women is an increasingly common problem these days as a result of social media pressures, negative body image and stress. This can show up as:
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The need to explain everything

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Isolation

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The inability to enjoy success

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Negativity

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Or the constant need for perfection

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Blaming others

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Defensiveness

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Fear of change

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Anxiety

So what can we do to combat life’s everyday stresses and boost our self esteem?

Here are my top 10 tips for those of you who want to give your confidence a little winter makeover.

  1. Look After Yourself

Our lifestyle habits, such as exercise and diet, have a huge impact on how we feel. Changes in physical appearance can give a fantastic sense of achievement, as well as encourage a happier state of mind due to endorphins released during exercise.

  1. Avoid Negative People

Identify the positive people in your life and nurture these relationships. Negativity drains positive energy from your mind, whereas uplifting energy keeps the spark alight. As Anthony Robbins says we are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with, so choose wisely!

  1. Express Gratitude

It’s really easy for us to focus on what we don’t have rather than what we do have. Say aloud or write down all the things you’re grateful for on a daily basis, recognising things you have accomplished.

  1. Watch Positive TV

The media is a big influencing factor in our thoughts and emotions. Watch programmes that give you the ‘feel good factor,’ and read articles which motivate you.

  1. Find a Role Model

You may already have one, but having a role model is important in order to remind us that anything is possible if you believe in yourself. My role model is Michelle Mone, who grew up in a poor area of Scotland and was told by teachers she would amount to nothing. She went on to build a business empire because she followed her passions and never gave up on her dream.

  1. Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

Whether it be on social media, at work or in your friendship circle, stop focusing on what other people around you are doing. Everyone is on their own journey, so follow what’s working for you and what makes you feel good.

  1. Follow Your Creativity

If something makes you feel really good or if you know you’re really talented in one area, embrace it. Whether it’s a sport, cooking or even skydiving, nurture the creative talents which you have and see where the journey takes you.

  1. Listen To Good Music

Music is a magical thing. It can boost our mood and instantly take our mind to a happier place. Design a playlist of uplifting tracks and songs which remind you of fun times in your life. Play them when you’re having a moment of self-doubt and feel your energy change.

  1. Try Something New

When we break out of our comfort zone and face the fear of trying something new, our confidence takes 10 steps forward. By challenging yourself you realise that you can actually accomplish more than you thought and break through your limiting feelings.

  1. Make a Plan, Then Follow Through

If you’re struggling with your social skills, organise fun outings with friends in advance and don’t bail. What’s the worst that can happen? Life’s too short not to have fun, so get out there and enjoy yourself.

Most importantly, remember to always be yourself. There is only one ‘you’ in the world and no one should have to go through life wishing they were someone else. So be bold, own your power and find the confidence to enjoy every experience which comes your way.

Kate Whillock

Emotional Health Consultant

Instagram: @healthyourselfhappy

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