Table of contents

• Know your needs
• Use the right keywords
• Share what you are offering
• Be friendly but assertive

Know your needs

Reflect on what you want in a relationship to avoid setting the wrong expectations. Think about your non-negotiables and how they relate to commitment, lifestyle, or personal values. If directness is important to you, say that. If you’re open to getting to know people gradually, express that, too.

Feel free to list phrases like “no strings attached” or “serious relationship only” on your dating profile if you’re looking for something on either end.

There is no right or wrong “answer.” Almost 70% of people who met someone on a dating site share that it led to an exclusive relationship, and it didn’t for 28%. According to 2023 data from the Pew Research Center, almost a third of US adults were single, and 51% were seeking casual dating or a long-term relationship. 56% of men and 44% of women were either looking for commitment or a casual relationship.

Use the right keywords

Keywords signal what you want without ambiguity. Suitable keywords for casual dating are “fun-loving” and “spontaneous.” Use “committed” or “long-term” if you want something serious. These simple words will resonate with people looking for the same things, and they are likely to reach out.

Share what you are offering

Sharing a bit about what you have to offer makes your profile attractive and invites others who find that particular vibe appealing. If you’re looking for a casual relationship, you could say something general yet appealing, like you love to make people laugh (as long as it’s true). Alternatively, state that you’re reliable, loyal, and ready to create something lasting with the right person.

New research suggests that online dating profiles that show the person wants to get to know a potential partner perform best. In 2024, it emerged that people appreciated partners who took the time to get to know them. This was also the case with relatives and friends: people want to feel known. One study suggested that we value support in our relationships, which is why feeling “known” is such a reliable predictor of relationship satisfaction. The ideal dating profile will balance expectations and intentions.

Be friendly but assertive

On the note of balance, some people will reach out with their own agenda, even if it’s clear that it doesn’t align with yours. Be friendly but assertive if someone seems interested in something other than what you’re looking for. Thank them for their interest, but do let them know you’re after something different and specific.

FAQ

How do I set up a profile for casual dating?

Be straightforward – you’re more likely to match with a user who’s looking for the same thing. Humor will let potential matches know you want to have fun. A CBS News poll revealed that a sense of humor was five times more important than intimacy for married couples. Cheerful humor is almost universally associated with relationship satisfaction.

How do I write a serious dating profile?

Consider what qualities you would like in a partner and draw attention to your positive traits. These are important because partners share up to 89% of traits, as well as religious beliefs, political beliefs, or other deep values. Opposites attract on very few traits. Talk about your interests and share a dream or aspiration you have. Finally, check your profile text grammar and spelling.

How do you manage expectations on a dating app?

• Be confident
• Know that not every match will be your soulmate
• Understand your dating goals
• Take a chance – it can be a good thing.